 “Love can be spread from within you to the outside, not from the outside to within you.” ~ P.S. Jagadeesh Kumar This week’s quote makes an important point about love. The idea that love is something we need to find, something that is given to us by another person, is deeply ingrained in our culture. We are taught from an early age that there is someone out there who will fill in all our missing pieces and make us feel whole and complete. This idea is based on the false assumption that we are not whole and complete already. What if love isn’t something you get from someone else? What if love is something already inside you, waiting to be unlocked?
Think about the last time you genuinely felt love. Where did you feel it? Chances are you experienced a feeling of warmth inside your chest and a feeling of expansion inside your heart. The point is, that love you felt did not come to you from an external source, it arose from within. Your own heart is the source of all the love that you will ever experience in this lifetime. Love is not a commodity that can be obtained, it is more of a harmonious inner state that can be cultivated. Those who search for love don’t realize that they already have it. To experience love right now, all you really need to do is breathe. By releasing the tension in your throat, chest and abdomen, you create space inside your body. Keep breathing deeply and an expansive feeling of love will inevitably fill in the spaces where the tension used to be. When you understand that your heart is the true source of love, it really takes the pressure off. No longer must you wait for love, or search for love, or be afraid of losing it. Love is infinite and eternal- it always has been, and it always will be. Simply by opening your heart, you allow this love to flow freely throughout your being.
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 "Man has no control over time; it is a gift to be cherished, not a possession to be kept." ~Unknown This is usually the time of year when I write a blog about how time isn’t real. How our whole concept of time is just a big game of collective make-believe. How it isn’t really New Year’s Day today, it’s just that at some point in history we drew an imaginary point on our eternal loop around the sun and declared that this is where one year ends and the next begins. However, to be honest. I’m not totally convinced that time is an illusion.
Evidence of the reality of time is all around us. For example, if you saw through a log, you find that it’s made up of a series of concentric rings, each ring representing a year of growth for the tree. You can also go to places like the Grand Canyon and really understand how it took over five million years to form. Of course, you only have to look in a mirror to recognize that time is real. If time is just an illusion, then why are you getting older? The Babylonians are credited with inventing modern timekeeping over 2,500 years ago. But that doesn’t mean they invented time. Nobody invented time, it is one of the fundamental components of the universe, along with matter and space. Without time, the world would be static- nothing would be able to grow or change. Time is the element that allows you to create and manifest, to develop mental concepts into physical form. However, while the element of time is real, the experience of time pressure is completely self-created. Time is constantly flowing along because that’s what time does- that’s what reality is. Where we go wrong is thinking that time somehow belongs to us. This belief leads to all kinds of unnecessary stress. Many people can’t stand the idea of wasting their time for example. For these people, the longer something takes, the more stressed out they become until each passing second becomes torture. Other people live their life in a panic, falsely believing that they don’t have enough time, or that their time is running out. So, by all means, let’s take a moment to celebrate the New Year. Timekeeping may be a human invention, but time itself is what makes this whole experience possible. Let’s commit to this being the year where we break through the illusory pressure of time and come to rest in the eternal peace of the present moment.  "As above, so below, as within, so without, as the universe, so the soul." ~Hermes Trismegistus This week’s quote is a reminder that the quest for harmony is an inside job. According to this philosophy, there is no difference between the infinite, eternal, divine world above and the earthly, finite, material world below- it’s all one and the same. The Earth is not merely a stepping stone on the way to Heaven, rather the Earth is Heaven itself. This seemingly ordinary world we all take for granted is actually the Divine in physical form.
This quote can also be interpreted on a more personal level, with “above” referring to the mind and thoughts, and “below” representing the body and its actions. Your thoughts (above) shape your reality (below). Your reality is a reflection of your inner state. That which resides "within" you- your thoughts, emotions, and intentions- inevitably manifests "without," shaping the reality you perceive and the life that you create. The final part of this quote touches on your relationship to the universe at large. It states that the microcosm and the macrocosm are intrinsically connected. That the invisible animating force within you is the same force that is found within all of life. That you are not separate from the whole, rather you are an expression of the same infinite energy and intelligence that is our universe. Therefore, strive to bring your inner and outer worlds into alignment. How you feel on the inside is going to influence the world you experience on the outside and vice versa. Whether you experience the world as hostile or harmonious really depends on your ability to maintain your internal balance. As Ram Dass once said, “The real work you have to do is in the privacy of your own heart. All of the external forms are lovely, but the real work is your inner connection.”  “Autumn shows us how beautiful it is to let things go.” ~Unknown Autumn is here, bringing with it a nagging sense of unease. Up until this point, we are generally comfortable with the passage of time. Winter gives way to spring, and spring leads to summer. As the days get progressively longer and warmer, our mood and general outlook on life improve. It feels like life is continuously getting better. But the moment we see that first yellow leaf, we worry that time is running out. We realize that the year, once so new and full of promise, is slipping away like sand through our fingers.
But it doesn’t need to feel this way. You might think that time is going by too fast, but efforts to slow down or freeze time are futile. As Alan Watts wisely said, “You cannot grasp it, just as you cannot walk off with a river inside a bucket.” Like a river, time’s nature is to flow. Any attempt to stop time from passing is an attempt to go against the basic rules of reality. Resistance to change is one of the leading causes of unhappiness. Yet, the natural world is never static- it’s in constant motion. As the philosopher Heraclitus taught over 2,500 years ago, “The only constant in life is change.” To resist change is, essentially, to resist life. Clinging to the belief that things should always stay the same only leads to frustration. Change alone doesn't make you unhappy. It's your attachment to the way things used to be that causes distress. Autumn is a reminder that endings are a natural part of life’s cycle. Without endings, new beginnings wouldn’t be possible. So, instead of resisting the falling leaves, why not embrace the changing season as an opportunity for personal growth? Take the time to reflect on your own life and consider what you need to release in order to move forward. As Pema Chodron reminds us, "When we resist change, it's called suffering. But when we can completely let go and not struggle against it, that's called enlightenment"  “Enlightenment for a wave is the moment the wave realizes it is water. At that moment, all fear of death disappears.” ~Thich Nhat Hanh This week’s quote teaches a profound truth about the nature of existence. In our last blog, we discussed the concept of oneness and the illusion of separation. However, it often takes the power of metaphor to really understand an idea. In this particular metaphor, the wave symbolizes your individual identity, while the ocean represents the deeper, unchanging essence that underlies all things.
If a wave was somehow capable of conscious thought, it may believe itself to be unique and finite. But, when this wave comes to recognize that it is not separate from the ocean, but an expression of it, a transformation occurs. The wave comes to understand that no matter what form it takes, its essential essence remains unchanged. When the crest eventually breaks and the wave disappears, it returns back to the source from which it originated. This concept is simple enough to grasp. But how exactly does it cause all fear of death to disappear? Perhaps it’s because the only thing you can know for certain is that you exist. As a result, there is often a lot of fear and uncertainty associated with the idea that you will eventually cease to exist. However, when you realize that you are an integral part of something eternal and infinite, you no longer have to worry about death being the end. In the same way, the enlightened wave no longer fears the moment when it crashes onto shore, because it understands that in falling back, it rejoins the whole. As Joseph P. Kaufman puts it, “We are like waves in the ocean, each with a unique character and quality on the surface, but deep down we are eternally connected to one another and to the ocean as a whole.” Just as a wave can find peace by discovering its unity with the ocean, you too can find peace by realizing your deeper connection to the infinite. Therefore, release any fear you may be harboring about your own demise. Remember that you are more than just a transient wave, you are the boundless ocean.  “You don't 'have' a life, you are life. The One Life, the one consciousness that pervades the entire universe.” ~ Eckhart Tolle In our last blog, we discussed the Buddhist principle of Anahata or “no-self.” The basic idea is that that the self is not real, rather it’s an illusion created by the thinking mind. Buddhists believe that behind the illusory veil of the physical world there lies emptiness or nothingness. Hindus also believe in an infinite void which underlies all things, however in the Hindu religion the void is not empty, it is filled with Divine light.
Instead of denying the existence of the self, Hindus believe that Brahman, or the Higher Self, is the true nature of the universe. Similar to what we might call “God,” Brahman is believed to be the ultimate, unchanging reality that encompasses the entire universe. Beyond time and space, Brahman is the source of all that exists, the eternal consciousness that underlies all of creation. In addition to the Universal Self, the Hindu religion also recognizes the personal soul or self. Known as the Atman, it is the invisible essence that animates all living things. It is the inner light that brings a sparkle to your eyes when you are awake- the conscious presence and eternal witness that resides within us all. The important thing to understand about the Atman is that it is not separate from Brahman. In fact, Hindu philosophy teaches that there is fundamentally no difference between Atman and Brahman- that the Atman is essentially a reflection of Brahman within each person. In other words, your innermost self is not separate from the Universal Self, it’s an expression of it. This understanding is explained with the Sanskrit phrase "Tat Tvam Asi", meaning "Thou art That." In other words, you are it! You are the ultimate reality, experiencing life as a human being for a little while. Realizing the unity between Atman and Brahman means going beyond the illusion of separation and experiencing the oneness of all existence. As Ekhart Tolle once said, “God is not a personality outside of you. What God is, is inextricably part of what you are. God is the dimension of depth within you.”  “You can’t see your own head. You never get at it. You can’t bite your own teeth or hear your own ears. That which is the knower is never itself the object of knowledge, just as fire doesn’t burn itself.” ~Alan Watts This week’s quote is about the true nature of the self. It's strange to think that the one thing in the world you have never truly seen is your own face. Sure, you’ve seen yourself in a mirror, but that isn’t the real you, it’s your reflection. You’ve also seen yourself in photos and videos but, again, that isn’t the same thing as looking directly at yourself.
In the same way, your mind can never fully comprehend its own nature. Your mind is that which perceives reality and, as such, it can never be the object of its own perception. According to Alan Watts, your mind is unable to perceive itself just as the eye can’t see itself and the tongue can’t taste itself. It’s like how your index finger can’t point to itself or how your foot can’t kick itself. Understanding that "the knower is never itself the object of knowledge" can shift your whole approach to the spiritual path. Now, instead of constantly trying to discover the truth about life, you can simply relax and enjoy the journey, appreciating the beauty of the things that you can perceive and the mystery of the things you cannot. Ultimately, you come to realize that the self is an illusion- that there is no separation between you and your experience. As David Bohm once said, "There is no thinker apart from thought. Thought creates the illusion of a thinker." Or, as Douglas Harding put it, "There is no experiencer of experience. There is just experience happening, and the thought that someone is experiencing it." So, let go of the need to figure yourself out. The person you believe yourself to be, the one witnessing your experience, is just another thought in the stream. Your mind creates the illusion of a self that is separate from the thoughts it produces when, in reality, there is no separation, there is just the flow of thoughts.  "When you go out into the woods, and you look at trees, you see all these different trees. And some of them are bent, and some of them are straight, and some of them are evergreens, and some of them are whatever. And you look at the tree and you allow it. You see why it is the way it is. You sort of understand that it didn’t get enough light, and so it turned that way. And you don’t get all emotional about it. You just allow it. You appreciate the tree. The minute you get near humans, you lose all that. And you are constantly saying ‘You are too this, or I’m too this.’ That judgment mind comes in. And so I practice turning people into trees. Which means appreciating them just the way they are.” ~Ram Dass. This week’s quote is about practicing non-judgment. Why is it that you can walk peacefully through the woods without feeling the need to judge all the different trees and yet, when you are out in a crowd, you find yourself judging all the different people?
Perhaps the problem is all in your head. Afterall, it’s the mind’s job to evaluate all incoming data. Unlike the heart, which feels only peace and appreciation in the present moment, the mind is never at rest. It’s always busy comparing and categorizing, scanning the environment for potential threats. According to Ram Dass, the secret to being non-judgmental is to see the world through the loving lens of the heart instead of the scrutinizing lens of the mind. How do you get out of your mind and into your heart? As Ram Dass once said, “Become a soul, look around, and you’ll be amazed- all the beings around you are souls too.” By “seeing God in everyone,” one is able to look beyond physical differences and recognize the divine spark or spirit that dwells within us all. So, the next time you find yourself in a crowd and you start judging others, try getting into your soul. “When you get into your soul,” Ram Dass explained, “the entire world is made of love- trees are made of love; beings, in their souls, are made of love.”  "Breathing in, I calm body and mind. Breathing out, I smile. Dwelling in the present moment, I know this is the only moment." ~Thich Nhat Hanh This week’s quote is a reminder to breathe. Imagine if there was only one moment. Instead of an entire lifetime, what if you were only given a single moment to experience existence? How you choose to breathe during that one moment is going to determine the quality of your experience. If you hold your breath, you will inevitably go into a panic. If you choose instead to breathe deeply and relax into the moment, you will eventually experience bliss.
Why does breathing feel so good compared to holding your breath? For one thing, oxygen is your body’s main source of energy. You might think that food is the body’s main energy source but try not breathing for a few minutes and you will soon change your mind. Some people can survive for months without food, whereas you would only survive for about three minutes without oxygen. While it may sound like a cliché, breath really is life. That is, breathing is the same thing as being alive. If you were to come across an unconscious person lying on the floor, the first thing you would do is check if they are breathing. Breath and life go hand in hand. If you are breathing, that means you are alive. So, remember to savor the simple pleasure of conscious breath. One reason breathing feels so good is because you are actively meeting your body’s most basic requirement. When you breathe, you are giving your body exactly what it needs to survive. By breathing deeply throughout the day, you open up a steady stream of life supporting energy within your being, enabling you to experience the subtle bliss of existence with each passing moment.  “We are the space in which thoughts appear, play, and dissolve like clouds drifting in the infinite sky.” ~ Mooji This week’s quote is a reminder that you are not your thoughts. You are not your worries and regrets or your hopes and dreams. You are not your memories of the past or your expectations about the future. But, if you are not your thoughts, then who are you?
Simply put, you are the consciousness that is aware of your experience. You are the silent witness- the one that is aware of your thoughts. In other words, when it comes to awareness, you are not the clouds, you are the sky. You can get so focused on the clouds that you forget to appreciate the sky they appear in. Imagine that it’s a beautiful day outside, with only one little cloud floating in the sky. Now imagine obsessing over that cloud, putting all your attention on it until you become convinced that it’s cloudy outside and that the day is ruined. In the same way, you might get so focused on a thought or feeling that it robs you of your joy in the present moment. How can you avoid this trap? As Eckhart Tolle once said, “rather than being your thoughts and emotions, be the awareness behind them.” It's a subtle shift, but one that can have a profound impact on the way you experience life. When you practice witness consciousness, you create a space between yourself and your immediate experience. This space allows you to reflect upon a thought or emotion before reacting to it. By identifying with the awareness behind your thoughts and feelings, you can experience life from the unshakable stillness at the center of your being, allowing you to carry a deep serenity within your heart wherever you go.  “You suppose that you are the lock on the door. But you are the key that opens it.” ~Rumi This week’s quote is for those of you who seek the key that opens the door to higher consciousness. What lies behind this door can best be described as infinity or eternity – a blissful realm of pure love and light. The spiritual path is basically the search for the key that unlocks this imaginary door inside your heart. Where exactly is this magical key? And how can you get your hands on it as soon as possible?
Perhaps, as Rumi’s quote suggests, you’ve got it all backwards. You are not the problem that needs solving, you are the solution. Many people believe that there’s something fundamentally wrong inside. They think of themselves as a complicated puzzle that must be solved first before they can be happy. But you can spend your whole life searching for the key to happiness without ever realizing that you are holding it in your hand. You become like a rope that has been tied into a knot. You think of yourself as the knot when, in reality, you are the rope. There is really nothing you can do to force the door to higher consciousness open. No matter how hard you push, you will never get it to budge. Not because the door is locked, but because, as the poet William Holman Hunt once said, "The door of the human heart can only be opened from the inside." In other words, the eternal bliss and infinite light that you seek is who you really are. Instead of pushing on the door to higher consciousness, simply go inside and let yourself in. Ultimately, you will discover that the door to your heart was never closed to begin with. The barrier between you and eternal bliss you seek is just a figment of your imagination. So, stop fixating on finding the key, because you are the key! As Mother Theresa taught,“There is no key to happiness; the door is always open.”  “There is no light without darkness – and this troubles many of us – but without it, how else would we tell one from the other? We spend half of every day in darkness; surely we should make our peace with this.” ~ Mark Frost During the recent solar eclipse, the moon passed in front of the sun, casting its shadow upon the Earth. On the surface, this seems like a pretty innocent event. However, there is often a lot of fear associated with an eclipse. What is it about darkness that scares us so much?
Afterall, without darkness there would be no light. Light and dark are more than just opposites, they need each other to exist. It's like how a magnet always has two opposite poles. You will never find a magnet that only attracts or one that only repels. Similarly, you can't have light without the presence of darkness. What would it be like to look up at the stars if there was no darkness? You wouldn’t be able to see anything at all! As Alice Feeney once said, “Stars cannot shine without darkness.” In the same way, the moon could not possibly cast a shadow on the Earth if there were no sunlight present. The experience of light depends on there being darkness, just as the experience of darkness depends on there being light. So, instead of being afraid of the dark, see it as an essential aspect of light. Furthermore, recognize that light and dark are in perfect balance on our planet. In fact, every location on Earth, without exception, averages 12 hours of daylight and 12 hours of darkness annually. When you embrace the light and reject the dark, you miss out on half of the experience.  “The Earth is you. You are the Earth. When you realize there is no separation, you fall completely in love with this planet.” ~Thich Nhat Hanh This week’s quote is a simple reminder that, since the Earth is beautiful, then so are you. This idea rests on the notion that you are not separate from the environment, rather you and the world are one and the same. The water in your blood, the calcium in your bones, the salt in your tears- they didn’t just appear out of nowhere, they are derived from the Earth. You are not just a guest here on this planet, you are this planet.
While this sounds like a bit of a cliché, there is also some truth to it. Human beings are kind of like the Earth’s nerve cells. The reason you can sense things like hot and cold or rough and smooth is because there are millions of tiny nerve cells in your skin that sense pain, pressure, temperature, and texture. You also have specialized nerves that help you see, hear, taste and smell. These individual nerve cells are not separate from your body, they are your body. In the same way, you are not separate from the Earth, you are the Earth. There is no real separation between you and your physical environment. You might think that everything inside of your skin is you, whereas everything that you encounter on the outside of your skin is not you- it’s something other than you. But inside and outside are just concepts, just two aspects of the same thing. As Alan Watts once said, “you can’t have an inside without an outside, just as you can’t have solid without space.” So, take a moment today to appreciate the beauty of the world. And smile inwardly, recognizing that what you are really looking at is you.  “To offer no resistance to life is to be in a state of grace, ease, and lightness.” ~Eckhart Tolle This week’s quote is a reminder that your inner resistance is the only thing stopping you from experiencing joy in this moment. Of course, putting this lesson into practice is easier said than done. It’s like recognizing that your excess muscle tension is the only thing preventing you from feeling relaxed right now. Or that holding your breath is the only thing preventing you from breathing deeply and fully. In either case, the solution is to let go of your inner resistance. How do you do this? By entering into a state of grace.
Being in a state of grace involves surrendering to the inevitable ebbs and flows of existence. But grace is so much more than that. For example, when someone accepts an award with grace they do so from a place of gratitude and humility. When someone dances with grace, they move fluidly and with precision, embodying both beauty and ease as they move through space. In contrast, dancing ungracefully involves making sudden, herky-jerky movements that lack any kind of finesse. Therefore, living in a state of grace means being kind and humble as you move harmoniously through the world with an unshakeable sense of inner calm. Being in a state of grace also means that you recognize the innate beauty of the world and have a heartfelt appreciation for the small joys and wonders of everyday existence. It’s a fortunate feeling, as if the whole universe is conspiring in your favor. It’s like the feeling you get when you are driving through town and every light turns green as soon as you reach the intersection. Or when you pull into a crowded parking lot and there is a space just for you. Grace is not only a recognition that life is a blessing, it’s also a recognition that you are blessed. So, whatever it is you have to do today, try doing it with grace. Simply by dropping all forms of resistance, you will naturally find harmony within.  “Every hour of every day is an unspeakably perfect miracle.” ~ Walt Whitman This week’s quote is a reminder about the miraculous nature of existence. Since living as a human being on Earth is the only thing you have ever known, you might be tempted to take the experience of life for granted. But many things that people consider to be factors of “ordinary life” are actually pretty miraculous if you look at them the right way.
For example, we accept without question that, in the beginning, there was nothing at all. Then, in the center of this infinite void, there was a gigantic explosion and all the matter and energy in the universe spontaneously burst forth into existence. We also think it’s perfectly ordinary that we’re currently floating in space on a little blue and green sphere that revolves around a much larger sphere of pure, life-giving energy. You might even think it’s no big deal that you were able to manifest yourself on this planet out of nowhere as a tiny baby that has since grown up into a creative, intelligent being. Let's face it, there is nothing ordinary about this human experience. Whenever I hear people talking about ordinary life I always think, ordinary compared to what? Is there some kind of extraordinary existence that I don’t know about? Perhaps normal life is the real miracle? When you consider the vast, complex chain of events that had to occur in order for you to be born as a human being here on Earth, miraculous is the only word that can be used to describe it. As Thich Nhat Hanh once said, “People usually consider walking on water or in thin air a miracle. But I think the real miracle is not to walk either on water or in thin air, but to walk on earth. Every day we are engaged in a miracle which we don't even recognize: a blue sky, white clouds, green leaves, the black, curious eyes of a child—our own two eyes. All is a miracle.”  “Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.” ~Rumi Do you want to fall in love? Of course, we all do! Falling in love feels great! Remember what it felt like when you first fell in love? Your heart opened and your breath felt free and easy inside your chest. You had a whole new appreciation for the beauty of life. The future appeared bright and full of possibilities. You were content in the present moment and excited about all the happy moments that were coming your way in the future.
What is stopping you from feeling like this every day? Afterall, when you first fell in love and felt all warm and fuzzy inside, it was your heart that was opening. The experience of love flowing through your being is what felt so good at the time, not the love coming to you from someone else. Rumi believes that love inherently exists within each of us. Love is our basic emotional state, although it is often buried under accumulated layers of stress and emotional baggage. Therefore, to experience love right now, you don’t need to seek it out or acquire it from an external source, you simply need to dissolve the blocks inside your heart that inhibit its natural flow. Imagine an old, tangled hose that is attached to a water faucet. If you turn the faucet on, water will start to flow into the hose. However, if there are any kinks in the hose, the water will get stuck. The moment that you remove all the kinks, the water will begin to flow freely again. In the same way, love is always flowing through your heart but your fears, insecurities, and past traumas act as kinks, impeding its flow. So, this Valentine’s Day, unkink your heart! Let go of your fears, take a deep breath into your chest, and allow yourself to fall in love all over again.  “The way we experience the world around us is a direct reflection of the world within us.” ~ Gabrielle Bernstein This week’s quote is a reminder that your internal state has a direct influence on how you perceive and experience the world. It rests on the basic assumption that your mind is like a lake. When the surface of a lake is calm, it accurately reflects the world around it. When the water is agitated, the reflection gets distorted. Therefore, in order to accurately reflect reality, it is important to keep your inner-lake as calm as possible.
One way to keep your inner-lake calm is by keeping it still. When your mind races, it creates waves upon the surface. These waves are caused primarily by fear-based emotions such as worry, doubt and insecurity. Unresolved emotions like anger or jealousy can also contribute to these waves. Carrying around this inner turmoil has a way of amplifying your external experiences, making even the smallest inconvenience feel like a massive personal attack. When you perceive the world through a lens of fear, you begin to view the world as a threatening place- one where everyone and everything is out to get you. Of course, calmness is only part of the equation. Clarity is also important when it comes to accurately reflecting reality. Dirty water also reflects the world around it, but the reflection will likely be vague and blurry. What is the best way to achieve mental clarity? Again, stillness is the key. As Lao Tzu so succinctly put it, “Muddy water, let stand, becomes clear.” The idea being that, if you leave a muddy puddle undisturbed for long enough, the mud will settle to the bottom, leaving the water crystal clear. In the same way, if you want to bring more calmness and clarity to your inner world, you simply need to step back and be still, allowing space for the process to occur naturally.  “To fall in love with yourself is the first secret to happiness.” ~Robert Morley This week’s quote is a reminder that self-love is the key to living a happy, healthy existence. However, this quote also leaves a lot to be desired. Suggesting that you need to fall in love with yourself in order to be happy implies a kind of forced self-infatuation. But self-love is not the same thing as vanity. It's not about gazing adoringly at your own reflection, it’s about treating yourself with kindness and respect.
Is it even possible to be in love with yourself? To do so, you would first need to divide yourself into two equal halves: one half of you that is giving love, and the other half that’s receiving it. However, you can’t just split yourself in two because, as we have discussed in previous blogs, you are one. But, if you are indeed one, then how exactly are you supposed to love yourself? Simply by recognizing that you are, essentially, the energy of love- the same loving energy that created this world and everyone in it. Ram Dass once described love not as a fleeting emotion but as a fundamental way of being. “This love is actually part of you,” he explained, “it’s always flowing through you. It’s like the subatomic texture of the universe.” He explained that being present to this love is like “relaxing endlessly into a warm bath that surrounds and supports your every movement so that every thought and feeling is permeated by it.” So, breathe easily and relax into the loving energy that is always present inside your being. When it comes to happiness, the love that radiates from your own heart is what matters, not the love that comes to you from the outside. By cultivating self-love, you learn to fill your own cup. Only when your cup is full can you share your love freely with others.  “Yesterday I was clever, so I wanted to change the world. Today I am wise, so I am changing myself.” ~Rumi This week’s quote has the potential to completely transform your life. Many of us have reached a certain level of understanding regarding the true nature of reality. At some point, you may have believed that you could change the world, if only you could convince all of humanity to get on board with your ideas. However, this kind of thinking is missing the point. Ultimately, it’s not about changing the world, it’s about changing yourself.
Enlightenment, or awakening to the truth about life, can be compared to a blind man who suddenly regains his sight. The world at large would be unaffected by this turn of events- everyone else would continue living their lives as if nothing out of the ordinary had happened. The only difference being that the formally blind man is now able to perceive his reality with much more clarity. Similarly, reaching a higher understanding about your existence does not necessarily change your reality, it simply allows you to navigate it more effectively. Many of us are operating under the false assumption that, once we awaken to the truth about our existence, all our problems and frustrations will disappear. But the world doesn’t stop coming at you just because you see it more clearly. You will still need to deal with the various inconveniences and adversities of life, no matter what personal epiphanies you come to. Since changing the world isn’t an option, the best thing you can do is change yourself. Life will invariably present challenges, there’s nothing you can do about that. All you can really do is change the way that you react to those challenges. It’s not that your life suddenly becomes free of difficulties, it’s that you learn how to create a sense of ease inside your being wherever you go. So, let go of the idea that you need to bring the world into harmony and focus instead on maintaining harmony within.  “Suppose time is a circle, bending back on itself. The world repeats itself, precisely, endlessly.” ~Alan Lightman This week’s quote makes a great point about the cyclical nature of experience. The fact is, time does not stand still, it flows. We like to think of time as flowing like a river, constantly moving and changing and adapting to the landscape as it makes its way to the sea. However, time is less like a natural river and more like the “Lazy River” that you would find at the local waterslide park (the one where you float around endlessly in a giant circle).
There is a certain cadence to the way time passes, to the way that the years come and go. But, don’t forget that this cadence is the direct result of the Earth floating around in a giant circle. In fact, our whole concept of time is linked to the movement of our planet. After all, if the Earth were to suddenly stop all movement and be perfectly still, time would also appear to be standing still. We would all be stuck living in the eternal now, with only our clocks to tell us how much time has gone by. So, is time really flowing or is it going in circles? Why can’t it be both- like some kind of flowing circle? Better yet, maybe we ought to think of the passage of time as a spiral. Because, even though you find yourself once again at the beginning of a new year, things are not exactly the same as they were a year ago. Therefore, keep on spiraling! Whether you find yourself on a downward spiral or an upward spiral this year remains to be seen. As long as you continue to grow and expand as time goes by, you should be ok.  “You never achieve real success unless you like what you are doing.” ~ Dale Carnegie On December 26th, back in 2013, we officially opened the doors to Well Being for the first time. Starting our own business was a scary experience! We didn’t really know what we were doing and it was extremely daunting not knowing how we would be received. All we knew is that we wanted to be of service- to bring as much love and healing light into the world as we possibly could. Like any small business owner that is just starting out, we took a leap of faith and hoped for the best!
Over the years we have experimented with many offerings, including skincare, yoga classes, sound healing, SUP yoga, massage workshops, and talks on a whole range of enlightening topics. These experiences gave us the opportunity to learn and grow both professionally and personally, and we connected with many wonderful and inspiring healers, teachers and guides. The past 10 years have also provided many challenges, including several years of construction projects in our little town, some of the biggest winters on record, and a global pandemic- just to name a few! We can honestly say that we have been challenged and enriched in ways we never knew possible over the last ten years. We are truly humbled and grateful for every customer and client who has stepped foot in our business and supported our dream. Without your support none of this would be possible! We also have a deep appreciation for all the amazing therapists and employees we have had the pleasure of working with during this time. Each one has helped us on our journey and many have become life-long friends. Who knows what the next 10 years will bring? One thing we are certain of is our dedication to serve and provide value to the best of our ability. We look forward to evolving Well Being with the hope of supporting you on your journey to relaxation, connection and transformation. From the bottom of our hearts, thank you!  "Christmas is not a time nor a season, but a state of mind." ~Calvin Coolidge It’s the most wonderful time of the year! Except, if we are being perfectly honest, it’s not really all that wonderful, is it? It’s actually the coldest, darkest, bleakest time of the year. However, faced with a choice between succumbing to misery or rallying together to create warmth, connection and cheer, mankind has traditionally chosen the latter.
Throughout human history, we have gathered together at this time for the sole purpose of keeping spirits high. Saturnalia, for example, was an ancient Roman festival dedicated to the god Saturn, celebrated around the winter solstice, which involved feasting and gift giving. Later on in their history, the Romans would celebrate the birth of Sol Invictus, the sun god. During this time, temples and public spaces were decorated with evergreen boughs, lights and wreaths, symbolizing life and the return of light during the dark winter months. The Yule festival, from the ancient Norse and Germanic people, also celebrated the return of the light and featured feasts, bonfires, evergreen decorations and gift giving. Therefore, let’s not get too caught up in semantics when it comes to celebrating Christmas. The spirit of the Holidays comes to us from traditions that have been with us for thousands of years. What all these traditions have in common is that they celebrate the light during an otherwise dark time. Faced with a pervasive lack of warmth and light, we gather together to create our own. It’s tempting to just say “Bah, humbug!” to the whole thing and retreat into the comfort of your own solitude, however that would be missing the point. It isn't the cold weather or the lack of daylight that determines how enjoyable this time of year can be, it’s you!  “At times, our own light goes out and is rekindled by a spark from another person. Each of us has cause to think with deep gratitude of those who have lighted the flame within us.” ~Albert Schweitzer This week’s quote reminds us to recognize the positive contributions of others. In last week’s blog, we concluded that real gratitude is experienced when you are grateful for life itself. While this is true to a certain extent, it doesn’t quite capture the essence of gratitude. It leaves out perhaps the most important aspect: being grateful for other people. While it is important to be thankful for the journey of life, real gratitude is experienced when you have a deep appreciation for those who contribute to your journey.
To better appreciate the value of others, imagine how unsatisfactory your life would be if nobody else existed except you. Besides being really difficult, life would be devoid of any connection, humor or meaning. It is the presence of other people that makes life worth living. Let’s face it, life isn’t easy. It’s hard work to always carry the light inside your heart. Inevitably, there will be times when your light flickers and goes out. That’s why it is important to be grateful for the people that make your existence more bearable- for anyone who rekindles your inner flame. Remember that keeping the collective flame alight is a reciprocal process. As such, there will be times when you are the one who provides the necessary spark for others. How will you know when it’s your time to shine? As the poet Rumi once wrote, “If everything around seems dark, look again, you may be the light.”  "Abundance is not something we acquire. It is something we tune into." ~Wayne Dyer The scene depicted in this week’s photo is our unique take on the Horn of Plenty, an ancient symbol of abundance and prosperity. Also known as a Cornucopia, it is typically shown overflowing with fruits, grains, root vegetables and flowers. Its curved form represents an endless flow of abundance, a visual representation of a bountiful harvest. We often see the Cornucopia this time of year, to the point that it has become synonymous with the Thanksgiving holiday. But what exactly does a display of abundance have to do with giving thanks?
A feeling of gratitude is the natural response that most people have when experiencing abundance. Simply put, when you look upon an abundant scene like the one above, you can’t help but feel a sense of richness and plenitude. Witnessing such abundance gives you a whole new appreciation for life and for the unlimited gifts that are freely given to us by the Earth. By acknowledging the generous nature of existence, you become grateful just to be alive. As Wayne Dyer once said, “Gratitude is the complete and full response of the heart to everything in the universe.” What can you do to foster an abundant mindset this Thanksgiving? It starts by becoming aware of the times when the scarcity mindset takes over. Whenever you feel like there isn’t enough, chances are you have fallen victim to scarcity. When you only concentrate on what you don’t have, you will never feel like you have enough. Switching from a scarcity mindset to an abundant mindset is relatively straight forward. Instead of fixating on what you don’t have, appreciate what you do have. In other words, to experience abundance right now, tune into the richness and blessings that are already in your life. Remember that true gratitude is not just being thankful for the good things in life, it is being thankful for life itself.  "Change is inevitable, but transformation is by conscious choice." ~Heather Ash Amara This week’s quote is a helpful reminder of what transformation is all about. The process of transformation is often misunderstood by those on the spiritual path. We see the way that caterpillars transform themselves into butterflies and we falsely believe that one day, we will undergo a similar process. However, try as you might, you will never spontaneously sprout colorful wings and flutter away.
This is not due to some failure on your part, it’s simply because you are not a caterpillar, you are a human being. There is really no escaping from yourself. You will always be you, no matter what you do. Regardless of how much transformation you experience in your lifetime, you will still be a human being in the end. So, what exactly are you supposed to transform into? The real question is, what kind of human being do you want to become? As Heather Ash Amara points out, change is going to happen anyway, whether or not you put any effort in. In fact, you could take no action at all and still undergo a transformation of sorts. The only difference is you might not like what you transform into. Real transformation, therefore, involves taking conscious control over the process of change. If change is going to happen anyway, then transformation means purposely changing for the better. Of course, transformation doesn’t happen overnight. It’s the result of a sustained, intentional effort to evolve and grow and become the best possible version of yourself. There are no shortcuts. There’s no magic pill you can take or button you can push to transform yourself. Instead, transformation is the direct result of your daily actions. So, instead of waiting passively for change to happen to you, take steps today towards becoming the person you’ve always wanted to be. |
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About The AuthorNick Hughes is a massage therapist, yoga instructor and co-owner of Well Being. Influenced by the ideas of Alan Watts, Eckhart Tolle, Ram Dass, and Deepak Chopra, Nick presents his unique take on human existence with the goal of helping others live a happier life. Archives
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